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    #16
    It takes a lot to open up and share something so personal Ralph, good on you for doing so. Whilst I can't begin to understand how the condition affects you, I do have a very close friend that is medicated for depression and I can tell instantly if he's trying to do a spell without them.

    A different kettle of fish but I found out in my mid 40's that I was on the Autism spectrum. It only came to light when my son was referred to specialists to see why he was "different" to his peers. It turns out that he has Aspergers Syndrome and the doctors were amazed to find out that I didn't have an official diagnosis myself. And of course a little embarrassed at they way they broke it to me. Suddenly a lot of things clicked into place, like my ever changing obsessions (of which modelling is my current one), and my difficulty in social situations.

    I feel awareness is the most important factor in any mental health issue. Once you know what you are facing it becomes that bit more manageable.

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    • Bortig the Viking
      • Mar 2019
      • 780

      #17
      Hi Ralph, see I said you would be surprised how many have issues or know someone who does, just know your limits and enjoy your life and modelling for that matter.

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      • grumpa
        • Jan 2015
        • 6142

        #18
        Hmmmm...am starting to feel a bit depressed myself at times recently, old age and a broken body seem to be the main culprits.
        Though I love modeling my extreme outdoorsman lifestyle has been severely hampered of late.
        No longer can I make those long treks into the woods in search of game, no longer can I handle those heavy chain saws and fell 150ft hemlocks and maples.
        No longer can I can I crack a skidder in half and change out a transmission or final drive....Hell! I can barely even lift the tools required for such work anymore.

        Of course my two boys are taking over the helm and my attempts to "help" seem more like just getting in the way and giving them something else to worry about.
        Even bouncing around on an ATV or one of our pieces of equipment is becoming more and more painful.

        The Missus says it's my time to stop and smell the roses and to let the young bloods run the show, and that my friend is the hardest part,
        also knowing that things will only get more and more difficult and never get back to the way things used to be.

        Jim

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        • colin m
          Moderator
          • Dec 2008
          • 8927
          • Colin
          • Stafford, UK

          #19
          Nice one Ralph. It's ok to talk, it's just we blokes are famously crap at doing it !

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          • Jim R
            SMF Supporters
            • Apr 2018
            • 16029
            • Jim
            • Shropshire

            #20
            Hi Ralph
            Recently there seems to be more consideration and understanding of mental health issues. This is a good thing I'm sure and is largely due to people like yourself being prepared to talk about their situation.
            Well done and all the best to you.
            Jim

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            • Jason Crausby
              • Apr 2018
              • 658

              #21
              Good for you Ralph.... Bravo!
              Jason.

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              • yak face
                Moderator
                • Jun 2009
                • 14076
                • Tony
                • Sheffield

                #22
                Kudos to you ralph ( and everyone else whos opened up) it takes a lot of courage to talk about something like this and you’ll only find help and encouragement from your friends on here . I think the over riding feeling is that its a lot more common than you think and that it can only be a positive thing talking about it . We’re always here if anybody needs to talk or sound off . Cheers tony

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                • Fernando N
                  • Apr 2018
                  • 2448

                  #23
                  Thanks for sharing Ralph and all others, I’m glad that the meds and modelling help to keep the demons at bay for each of you.
                  As said it isn’t a guy thing to talk about these things, so very courageous of you to step up and if it helps by all means please do.

                  Once I witnessed an artist giving an emotion speech on stage about his depression and such, he ended it with a phrase like’’ No matter how dark it seems, the world is a better place with you on it’’...

                  Take care and moggel on guys.

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                  • Lee Drennen
                    SMF Supporters
                    • Apr 2018
                    • 7711

                    #24
                    Ralph
                    Your one of us one big family of friends your never alone if you ever need to talk one of us is here to support you. This past January 10 I suffered a severe anxiety attack never had one in my life. I’m a truck driver and I had to rearrange my life. I’m 50 yrs old I’ve been driving for 30yrs been at the same job for 23yrs but the long hours and sitting behind the wheel caught up with me in January. So I came off the road now I work local home every evening and I will only work about 10hrs a day after seeing the doctor and praying a lot I’m heeled from it. My life is so better now I try not to let things get to me like I once did. My Mother suffered from metal problems all her life she died when she was 56 of cancer she was such a good woman and a great mother I often wondered why she suffered so much in life but my dad never left her side for 40yrs of marriage till she passed away. So my friend we’re all here for you and I understand. Keep modeling and postive thoughts. You are a great person and good hearted my friend always looking forward to your stuff take care my friend

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                    • Mini Me
                      • Jun 2018
                      • 10711

                      #25
                      Thanks for sharing Ralph, I'm about a half bubble out of plumb myself. Been A.D.D. most of my life and the scale modeling and focus on detail work helps me to deal with it. Now that I think about it, seems to be the new normal. Cheers Mate and welcome to the club! Rick H.

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                      • Dave Ward
                        • Apr 2018
                        • 10549

                        #26
                        I think this thread proves two things
                        • Mental Health issues are far more common than you think.
                        • Modellers are all slightly unhinged ( at least that's what my friends say! ) :tongue-out:

                        Seriously, though, talking, and knowing that other people suffer problems is beneficial. We have to get over the macho fear of discussion, and worst of all ( for me ), the thought that you're looking for sympathy
                        Dave

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                        • Andy Belsey
                          • Apr 2018
                          • 887

                          #27
                          It's good to read all this honesty, love and support for each other. That's why many of us have joined this forum. We're not here to bitch about minor blemishes in other's work but to enjoy a common hobby and we'd like to help each other to get better at it. Being honest about our private struggles is refreshingly encouraging too. As others have said, we ALL have mental issues, if we are honest with ourselves and each other. Keep taking the pills, pray, make models and enjoy each other's company.
                          Andy

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                          • boatman
                            • Nov 2018
                            • 14498
                            • christopher
                            • NORFOLK UK

                            #28
                            Hi Ralph sorry for comin in late on your thread as I dint know what to say. But I will say that the guys have said it all from my view point you stay stronge an think positive an keep modelling an be happy as possible all best from me
                            chris

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                            • Guest

                              #29
                              Thank you so much everyone for sharing your thoughts and feelings and for all the support :smiling3:.

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                              • Bortig the Viking
                                • Mar 2019
                                • 780

                                #30
                                Hi all, here are two good sites, not just for mental health but also some interesting info, please read maybe donate if you wish. I'm not connected to the sites but I do support.
                                http://www.modelsforheroes.co.uk
                                Model making is helping military veterans recover from the mental scars of war. Sessions are being run by a veteran of Afghanistan in Plymouth.

                                Thanks

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