Thanks guys much appreicated by your posts
chrisb
chrisb
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You are most welcome Chris.Do hope Jen is ok.Afraid im slipping back into a dark place.Keep trying to do models but just cant do anything.
HI Richard what are you goin into depresshion ? as jen still is not happy an argues a lot so i think she is still in depresshion as we have had a good wkend as yesterday i took her to her car boot sale that she likes goin too thought she was out of it an she was ok up the warship day at norwich pond sailin my norfolk an she was havin a good chat to loads of people up there but it seem she is back in again now i dont know why she is like that but its sure gettin on me i suppoce its a give it time job
Chrisb
Chrisb
Hi Chris.
Think sometimes being outdoors takes your mind off things for a brief time.I tend not to argue but end up withdrawing and not wanting to be around lots of people.Dont like to explain to some where i live because they dont understand.When we lost little Lottie it made things worse and i miss her everyday.My wife wants to go away in couple weeks for long weekend but i dont want Barnaby going in cattery alone for the first time.Id just worry about him being unhappy.I guess it affects people in different ways my friend.My wife doesnt really understand and is quite argumentative.Usually manages to make me lose my temper which takes a lot because im very placid and easygoing.Think some think im a pushover and not used to me blowing my top.I know how you must feel.I understand as both my parents have had issues all my life with mental health issues.
Richard.
Think sometimes being outdoors takes your mind off things for a brief time.I tend not to argue but end up withdrawing and not wanting to be around lots of people.Dont like to explain to some where i live because they dont understand.When we lost little Lottie it made things worse and i miss her everyday.My wife wants to go away in couple weeks for long weekend but i dont want Barnaby going in cattery alone for the first time.Id just worry about him being unhappy.I guess it affects people in different ways my friend.My wife doesnt really understand and is quite argumentative.Usually manages to make me lose my temper which takes a lot because im very placid and easygoing.Think some think im a pushover and not used to me blowing my top.I know how you must feel.I understand as both my parents have had issues all my life with mental health issues.
Richard.
HI Pete its now cold an she says its hurting her alot as she is limpin about but what else can she do i help her as best i can but she is very stubbon an wont go to see the doc for stronger pain killers but thank you sir for enqirein about jen
cheers sir
chrisb an jen
Living together ain't always easy indeed, perhaps you can try talking to your wife a bit more about why you prefer staying at home, with Barnaby etc... Perhaps she can go for a weekend with one of her friends or someone in the family? Home sweet home I'd say 
, all the best, cheers
, all the best, cheers
Richard,
I'm sorry to here you are struggling mate. The only thing I can say is take each day as it comes and look for the positives they offer. If i can ever help even if its just to swear shout or vent at pm me.
Take care
Scottie
I'm sorry to here you are struggling mate. The only thing I can say is take each day as it comes and look for the positives they offer. If i can ever help even if its just to swear shout or vent at pm me.
Take care
Scottie
Sorry to hear your woes guys. Depression is a horrible thing. It seems to suppress all the good emotions and just leave you with the negatives like anger and guilt.
I’ve just come out of a bout of this myself, so empathise strongly with both sides of the issues. A key thing to remember is that there usually is no main cause. It’s just a lot of small set backs that can add up and tip you into this state of mind.
The way to improve your mental state, at least, for me, is to mentally plan your day and celebrate the achievement of small things. This way you can set yourself up with a lot of little victories and can perhaps generate some positivity. However, don’t beat yourself up if you can’t get through the list. Sometimes getting out of bed, having a wash and brushing your teeth is as good as it gets. These are still achievements when you are suffering from depression and should be celebrated as such.
Talking is definitely a good thing as well, but only to someone that is empathetic to your situation. The worst thing is to be told to “snap out of it” or to continually be asked “how you are” or “do you feel a bit better”. These questions just drive you mad. Better to ask a question about a subject the sufferer knows about, or to try to talk about happier times or current events. My uncle, who also suffers sometimes, calls it talking bollocks, ie, chatting about absolutely anything with no importance whatever. It breaks the circle of introspection and puts your mind in neutral. There are times when the sufferer just want to be left alone, and any human interaction can be maddening. In this case, let them have space. They will come back to you when they are ready.
Just be aware there is no quick fix and no real cure. It can bite back really quickly with no real reason or warning, but can also go dormant just as fast. Antidepressants don’t really help much in my experience. They just put your emotions in neutral until you feel nothing at all. They are very helpful if you are suffering seriously negative thoughts, but for a bout of mild depression they just turn you into a sort of zombie. Human contact and activity on the sufferers terms will improve the situation, but needs patience and understanding from their loved ones.
If either of you guys want to discuss this, or just rant, please feel free to PM me. I’ve experienced this issue from both sides and know the importance of a support team in improving the situation.
I’ve just come out of a bout of this myself, so empathise strongly with both sides of the issues. A key thing to remember is that there usually is no main cause. It’s just a lot of small set backs that can add up and tip you into this state of mind.
The way to improve your mental state, at least, for me, is to mentally plan your day and celebrate the achievement of small things. This way you can set yourself up with a lot of little victories and can perhaps generate some positivity. However, don’t beat yourself up if you can’t get through the list. Sometimes getting out of bed, having a wash and brushing your teeth is as good as it gets. These are still achievements when you are suffering from depression and should be celebrated as such.
Talking is definitely a good thing as well, but only to someone that is empathetic to your situation. The worst thing is to be told to “snap out of it” or to continually be asked “how you are” or “do you feel a bit better”. These questions just drive you mad. Better to ask a question about a subject the sufferer knows about, or to try to talk about happier times or current events. My uncle, who also suffers sometimes, calls it talking bollocks, ie, chatting about absolutely anything with no importance whatever. It breaks the circle of introspection and puts your mind in neutral. There are times when the sufferer just want to be left alone, and any human interaction can be maddening. In this case, let them have space. They will come back to you when they are ready.
Just be aware there is no quick fix and no real cure. It can bite back really quickly with no real reason or warning, but can also go dormant just as fast. Antidepressants don’t really help much in my experience. They just put your emotions in neutral until you feel nothing at all. They are very helpful if you are suffering seriously negative thoughts, but for a bout of mild depression they just turn you into a sort of zombie. Human contact and activity on the sufferers terms will improve the situation, but needs patience and understanding from their loved ones.
If either of you guys want to discuss this, or just rant, please feel free to PM me. I’ve experienced this issue from both sides and know the importance of a support team in improving the situation.
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Many thanks Paul.I just think i should grab a kit off shelf and make it.They say models take your mind off stuff.Thanks for your kindness
Thank you kindly Tim.Sometimes i like to walk in nature to sit alone and listen to the sea.I live on Essex coast and only 50 metres from the North sea.Just walking on the beach is nice.I just wish i could summons the zest to do some models.I look in my cupboard at kits or read but just cant seem to get enthusiasm for them.I think i buy kits as a kind of retail therapy hence big stash.Appreciate your kind thoughts
Diamondbacks for me Chris!
Steve
Steve
YES Pete you are proberly right just hope she comes out of it soon as its makein me depressed
thanks Pete for your thoughts of her
chrisb
Hope you both feel better soon Chris, hang in there 
Thinking of you both Chris. I hope Jen feels better soon.
HI Jim many thanks for your thoughts of us cheers but jen is stubbon as ive asked her if she feels better but all i get is a moan but i think its her foot playin her up like Pete said as its now cold wheather but i hope she will cheer up tomorrow as she is goin over to see her freinds
CHEERS Jim for thinkin of us
ATB
Chris an jen
HI Guys well still doin them light on the hornet as there are more on this than the tomcat an the way the kit is made is proveing very difficult to jion all the wires up an solder the mini eletric plugs as ive found i cant do one bit til ive done another an then off it goes again as i cant do them wires till the sideds of the fusalage are fittedan then i cant fit them till ive fitted in the engine on the power side but i will get it done just takin loads of time an first pic is of the lower fusealarge where all the lights wires will have to meet up to be soldered to the plugs but now i think im on the right track 
Next the tail virtical has been tested for dry fitin an gettin the lights to work 
Despite all the difficulties you're making steady progress. Brilliant work sorting out all those little lights and wires. As you say you are definitely on the right track.
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