discussion A Beaten Man

[Guest]

I just got back from my wife's mums funeral (she's staying on for a week) he Joe her husband looks at the floor and says very little after 59 yrs of marage (he had a 30yr bottle of whiskey set aside for their 60th) he was the life of the party, now he's lost, his wife was a wonderful woman (helped at the Lockerbie disaster cooking meals for the police and rescue services) I have a very small idea how he feels as my wife is staying on for a week and I am alone, as he would be and I can't help thinking if I was in his shoes and it was my wife I'd lost. He served in wwII and saw a lot of action, went through it all and yet I've never seen him like he is now, never seen my missus as she was at the funeral (never want to again)(although I know it will be at least once more) why do people have to die Joe is such a nice guy, people joke about their inlaws but mine have been the best RIP Barbra Bateman a wonderful mother, grandmother and great grandmother.

 

[eddiesolo]

Very touching Ken, my sympathies to you and your family mate.


I know what you mean, the loss and being on your own can be so lonely and a shock, especially at this close time.


If we didn't die we wouldn't have the need for children and the joy they bring...although at times like this...it is so hard.


I miss my Dad, lost him just over a year a go.

 

[Guest]

I can imagine how he feels. Being a pessimist, I have thought about what it would be like to be left alone. When you get in the door, everything is exactly as you left it: a mug on the table, a newspaper where it was. No-one to chat to about little things. Friends and family need to take him out, get him interested in something time-consuming, pop in frequently.

 

[Guest]

Trouble is he lives in Scotland we live in essex, my daughter is going up in 3 wks time, my son and his wife are up at easter we will try again sometime in between, he has a son in Bedale and one in Edinburgh who will both try and see him more often, that is the problem when families move apart.

 

[grumpa]

So sad After nearly 40 years of being married to the most wonderful wife and mother I could not even fathom being without her. But life dictates that we must face death, he must get back on his feet{emotionally} but it will take time. In many cases it is sad but true that some oldsters will pack it in not long after their soul mate passes, hope he has some support in place.


Please convey my sincere condolences to your Missus...............Jim