discussion Well I've finally done it

[grumpa]

Good luck my friend, very difficult to start over at our age, maybe you should retract your notice and try to get along, just for the time being { while of course actively seeking other options} no sense letting her pull the rug out from under you, she's not going to give you a good reference anyway. Don't think she'll have trouble replacing you as there are many desperate for employment I'm sure, and they won't find out how awful she is till a bit later, meanwhile you could be on the bricks. Try to keep your emotions in check - stiff upper lip you know - and I think this plan will help to calm the Mrs. too knowing you won't be chucked out on your bum in two weeks ready or not. Don't be rash, think of what's right for you guys and to hell with her! ...........Jim

 

[Guest]

She's already accepted my notice and has said she wouldn't take me back. You say there are lots looking for work, when they see what I've been using they will laugh at her.

 

[takeslousyphotos]

Hi all well its been a long time since I wrote a cv and I must admit I'm struggling my daughter has spoken to the missus and she's calmed down a bit, no moddeling till I've got another job.

The main thing with a CV is to keep it concise. One page unless you really need to spill over onto two........... and the most important bit is your "personal statement" at the top. Most employers (and particularly HR bods, who, in my experience are all bitter and twisted) won't bother reading the rest unless that grabs them first....... Good luck matey.

 

[Guest]

Thanks mate I've applied for 2 and have one to phone up about today as a bin man.

 

[john i am]

Good luck Ken hope everything works out for you. Bin man job sounds good early finish and a great way to keep fit with all that walking. Don't forget to register with as many agencies as you can as this is a great way to full time employment.

 

[takeslousyphotos]

Thanks mate I've applied for 2 and have one to phone up about today as a bin man.

Good luck from me as well Ken.

 

[Guest]

Hi all well one bit of good luck I have the bin job for when my notice is up, it's only a temping job at minimum wage but I'm only on 10p an hour above that anyway so no real difference there the woman said I could be permanent if wanted as they can't keep people, I have loads of other jobs to apply for just need to get my cv saved as a file the applications recognise on the net, still I have the printed versions I can take to employers.


My missus says if she hassles us too much about vacating the house to quickly she will threaten to leave as well, but she hasn't mentioned the house yet.

 

[takeslousyphotos]

Sounds good Ken. Glad to hear it matey.

 

[eddiesolo]

Nice news on the job front, it may not be the best but it is a two-fingered salute to your previous employer.

 

[Guest]

Just been reading all your troubles Ken. A bit in the dark about all this though. What was your job that you have terminated? Glad to hear you have found another job, even if it is emptying bins, it's a job at least, better than nothing until something better crops up. Good luck anyway.

 

[Guest]

Hi Geoff I was a gardener handy man on a large estate which used to have 4 gardeners and 3 handy men and now there is just me, I used to have a sit on mower to mow the lawns but it was so old when I went for repair they was told it was beyond repair so now I mow the lawns with an 18 INCH push mower, and she moans about the place starting to look shabby. This last thing was just the last straw she phoned up about 3 weeks ago on a Saturday at 930 pm (we'd just got in from a bbq at our friends) screaming down the phone where had we been, she'd been trying to get hold of us all day (turns out she couldn't find the salt) that's what it's like here.

 

[eddiesolo]

Sounds like they live in past with servants...silly people. You know what they say, the rich stay rich because they don't spend-most people with money are tight wads.

 

[Guest]

Guess what she said to my missus today, (I couldn't stop laughing) "it would be nice if _He_ apologised to _Me_". My missus said if I did she might give me a reference. I said it would be a cold day in he'll before that happened. Even if she said she'd give me one if I apologised she would smile afterwards and say no. I couldn't believe that she lives in cloud cuckoo land.

 

[Guest]

Blimey, I can see now why you packed the job in. She won't get anyone to mow her lawns with a push mower on a large estate. If she phones you again, tell her to stick her mower up her jacksy. I take it your wife works there as well. Does your house come with the job? What happens if your wifes job goes too, you could become homeless. Sounds as though you are in a bit of a catch 22 situation.

 

[eddiesolo]

Guess what she said to my missus today, (I couldn't stop laughing) "it would be nice if _He_ apologised to _Me_". My missus said if I did she might give me a reference. I said it would be a cold day in he'll before that happened. Even if she said she'd give me one if I apologised she would smile afterwards and say no. I couldn't believe that she lives in cloud cuckoo land.

Chuffing hell Ken...she wants you to apologise...yet they cannot see what they are doing/done...yep, away with the fairies.

 

[zuludog]

Sounds like my idea that she might try to pass any blame onto you was correct. I think you would both be better if you were out of it


Here are a couple of suggestions


You say you are in a tied house. Start looking & costing for rented accommodation; private, housing associations, and council. If you arrange a meeting with an association and explain your situation and the pressure, you might get a priority. Get your name down, you can always decline an offer with no problems, as they will always have others on a waiting list


You can usually get a private rent quickly, and just because you're in it doesn't mean you have to stay forever


Do you know anyone with a spare room, shed, garage or similar you could use for a while? Start to move your furniture & belongings into it so that when you do leave you will have less stuff and can make your move fairly quickly. I can anticipate all sorts of ructions, fun & games and unpleasantness when it actually happens


Have a serious look at your finances, income, expenditure and so on. You might find that you could manage on less money, at least for a short while, so that you could afford for your wife to leave, even if she hasn't yet got a job. Get professional advice and see what help is available. Where I live Lancashire County Council produce a booklet on financial advice & assistance for over 60s. There may be something similar in your area.


A friend lives in a rural area, Cumbria, and is a self employed cleaner; never seems to be a shortage of work - various houses, a pub, and she's just started doing a local school.


I was a chef/cook in a nursing home, and I know that schools, nursing homes, hospitals and so on are often looking for kitchen assistants


Can't be any worse than her present situation

 

[Guest]

When I referred to 'The Syndicate' I didn't realise that your employer was actually worse! They could have made a better TV program about her. What an unbeleivable woman.

 

[Guest]

Well thanks for the suggestions we have savings (luckily) we don't drink(much) don't go out much gore biggest expence is the sky tv (only the basic package) so have checked on private renting and we could manage for 6 mnths with neither of us working(obviously we don't want to use all our hard earned savings in this way but if necessary we could) funny thing they are soooooooooo tight apparently her husband is going to take over my job (he works in London all day and dosn't get in till 8 pm) so not sure how he thinks he is going to deal with 20 acres of garden. Not to mention all the other stuff I do. She has not mentioned the house at all so maybe we have a bitbof time to sort something. My missus says if she wants to put the rent up she will say she is off too. As we pay 600 a month and it's rental value is 1000 as she likes to remind us offten. That may be true if it was all in good order, I have bodged the outhouse roof so many times the timbers are all rotten, the front window sill is rotten and the window is sinking into it I've added a piece of 2x4 to the top of the window to fill the gap, she won't spend a penny on the building.

 

[grumpa]

Egads! sounds like she's trying to "divide and defeat" don't let her do it! Have the missus play her along, don't give her the upper hand. I think she may be regretting her obtuseness. Let the rope out a bit at a time and don't go "over the top " until you're good and ready

 

[zuludog]

I've just searched Google for 'rental properties, Halstead Essex'. Looks as though there is a decent selection of flats & houses up to the £600/£650 mark, including this;


3 bedroomed semi, Parsonage Street, Halstead, £450pcm


Not too far away The Ramsay Academy currently has a vacancy for a kitchen assistant


Also The Colne View Care Home may have something