discussion Well now I've calmed down !

[Alan 45]

im a firm believer in showing respect to the older generation but boy do some of them make it hard , I've been out and returned and as I've come into my road there's a bloke struggling to park so I've let him park


As I'm waiting this car comes out of the side road about 100yards from where I'm waiting and sits there for a bit as soon as he sees a gap he starts coming down blocking my path I refuse to move I have right of way his side is blocked , he starts telling me to go on the path I refuse and tell him that's wrong it's against the law another car comes down so I reverse to let this old duffer through he sits there telling me he has to go on the pavement so why shouldn't I I tell him he needs to learn some manners and have consideration for other road users he bangs on about how many years he's been driving I tell him he needs to read the Highway Code the bloke behind bibs and he drives off


These sort of people will be the first to complain about the younger generation not showing them any respect but it's hard when it's them that have no idea what respect is


If he had been my age it would have been very bad


Rant over

 

[eddiesolo]

Problem is:


The youth think they know it all.


The middle aged know just enough.


The old generation do know it all, but have forgotten most of it.


We also become very set in our ways as we become older...I know I have, and intolerable of certain issues.


But, you're correct, just because you're an elder does not mean that manners and respect shouldn't be forthcoming.

If he had been my age it would have been very bad

Why? He probably would have kicked your ass even now


Si

 

[Guest]

I agree with Alan even though I am now a pensioner, and don't get me started on women who always stand in shop doorways to talk to each other!!

 

[Alan 45]

Problem is:
The youth think they know it all.


The middle aged know just enough.


The old generation do know it all, but have forgotten most of it.


We also become very set in our ways as we become older...I know I have, and intolerable of certain issues.


But, you're correct, just because you're an elder does not mean that manners and respect shouldn't be forthcoming.


Why? He probably would have kicked your ass even now


Si

The youth have always thought they know everything but new what respect was and showed it well thirty years ago , by the time your middle age you understand why it's important by old age your putting shoes in the fridge lol I joke


I think the problem I faced today was the bloke thought he was better than me because he had money , his care was a very sporty merc and looks down his nose at people , we've got a few like that where I live and I think I got fed up with being shown disrespect that I bit today it was the straw that broke the camels back,


If he had waited I probably would have let him through as that's the sort of driver and person I am but he didn't

 

[Guest]

The youth have always thought they know everything but new what respect was and showed it well thirty years ago , by the time your middle age you understand why it's important by old age your putting shoes in the fridge lol I joke

Should I stop putting my shoes in the fridge then?

 

[Guest]

Find that in these situations it is best just to keep your cool. Lips tight as it is for your opponent the most frustrating thing of all.


He or she just has nothing to argue against. If they then have a monologue then just put your finger to your lips and give s slight smile while closing the window. They will self destruct guaranteed to work


Last always stay seated in your car doors locked.


Lastly living in a block of 500 flats, with probably 60% young people, I have the greatest respect for the respect that these young people have shown my wife and I. They are also great fun. Also some are quite shy of older people and we certainly go out of our way to counter that I do believe it is a form of respect in itself.


Laurie

 

[grumpa]

Find that in these situations it is best just to keep your cool. Lips tight as it is for your opponent the most frustrating thing of all.
He or she just has nothing to argue against. If they then have a monologue then just put your finger to your lips and give s slight smile while closing the window. They will self destruct guaranteed to work


Last always stay seated in your car doors locked.


Lastly living in a block of 500 flats, with probably 60% young people, I have the greatest respect for the respect that these young people have shown my wife and I. They are also great fun. Also some are quite shy of older people and we certainly go out of our way to counter that I do believe it is a form of respect in itself.


Laurie

That is so nice to hear, one the last bastions of gallantry and respect your little Jersey is. much the same here abouts. We are the opposite, vast areas with few folks. every one seems to know or know of every one else. No time for young'un nonsense, every one works at something and surprisingly few want to bolt to the big cities, they know they are a lost cause. Good family life and aggressive parenting keep em on the right track {most of the time} It's just the closer you get to the "big city"-- NY City - the more rotten it gets. Jim

 

[Guest]

I was a professional driver for years and have seen all manner of bad driving I found that in these situations all I had to do was smirk and shake my head that seemed to have more of an effect lol

 

[Ian M]

Smart Alex's in expensive cars, tend to change their tune if you put you car in gear and start slowly moving towards them.


All the better if they are blocking the road in a way that puts them in the wronge.


Or another good one is to take your mobile phone and ask them if they have been drinking... It's you civic duty to call the police and warm them of drunk drivers.

 

[Robert1968]

Oh please let me have a rant about the traffic........


I work for people with a learning disability letting them live in their own homes etc etc


Well I'm on my way into work and it's a tight set up with cars parked on one side of the road and the other side is supposed to be for disabled etc. so in driving up to work this evening and there's this 4x4 Dodge Ram ( big mother of a pick up with double axle at back ( think you may have seem them. Anyways she ( ram is parked in the middle of the road facing me ( there's only one car width to drive down.


I'm coming up the road and she's sat there yapping to some I presume neighbours or something so I polirlely stop my ( Porsche 911!!!!!! ) actually it's a Renault Clio and sits patiently.


She has seen me and smiles then continues with her conversation leaning out her cab!!!


I politely pull the window down and say excuse me


She's a woman possibly in her 60s and says to me don't bother me I'm trying to have a conversation!!!!


She's in the bloody middle of the road no traffic can get by her or anything. So she reverses a little still in the road and beckons me on. At less than 5mph I edge past her stop when I get to her cab look up at her and say " do you know your blocking the road and I'm trying to get to work! She tuts at me and says " bloody yobs


I'm 47 not exactly a yob. So I say you need to move madam ( don't call me madam she says and all hell breaks loose the neighbour starts on me saying until you came along we were having a nice chat


I just lost it


I say I'm sorry for interrupting your conversation but your blocking the damn road!!!


I politely say why don't you park your truck in a space if you can find one and continue your conversation as some people need to get to work. She grunted at me and drove off. The neighbour looked at me with disgust!! I'm the bad one here????


Rant over


Robert

 

[takeslousyphotos]

They young drivers (of the fairer sex) can be right pain as well........... A while back a one of them, on a roundabout (that's a traffic circle Jim) one daft cow who was on my outside decided she wanted the exit I was just coming up to , carved across my front end and I went straight into the side of her car........ It turned out she was a Scot and in some Nicola Sturgeon type accent, went off on one about the damage I'd done to her car (which was substantial) she went on and on...... and I said nothing. Her final sentence was "Have ye got out te see fer yersef then?" or something like that.......... I just smiled and in my best BBC English, said............ "Your really not cut out for this driving caper are you sweetheart. Shall we exchange Insurance details............. Another Nicola Sturgeon type tirade followed.

 

[Guest]

dissagree with the comments about respect.


My misses is a nurse and a lot of the old folk are complete and utter B********* the younger ones seem to be addicts. no older person deserves respect off the bat, everyone no matter their age can be a total **** and you give people respect with respect to how you find them yourself. regardless of age

 

[grumpa]

When we first moved up to the mountains and being of me old driving habits, I would go insane getting behind some old "gizzard" doing under the speed limit and especially on the narrow twisting country roads there is no where to make a pass and the next intersection could be some 20 or 30 miles off! My poor Mrs! but now I've come full circle--- I'm the old "gizzard" wondering just what the hell is the big rush with this guy behind me!

 

[flyjoe180]

Life's too short to worry or stress about trivial events. Model time!

 

[Alan 45]

Life's too short to worry or stress about trivial events. Model time!

Not possible Joe I'm a brummy and we are the most honest people in the country , always expect to be told bluntly if your in the wrong

 

[Guest]

Not possible Joe I'm a brummy and we are the most honest people in the country , always expect to be told bluntly if your in the wrong

That is fine Alan provided that it can be excepted in return . Think your mini thesis on honesty may well be more than modestly challenged through out the United Kingdom and "Channel isles".


Laurie

 

[Robert1968]

Not possible Joe I'm a brummy and we are the most honest people in the country , always expect to be told bluntly if your in the wrong

Don't admit that too much Alan


Robert

 

[Alan 45]

Don't admit that too much Alan
Robert

Don't worry rob the Internet is a no go area for frank talking , I find it very cowardly to tell people what you think of them while hiding behind a computer screen

 

[Guest]

The danger, of course, is that sometimes we also allow rudeness to masquerade as being blunt.


I think generalising to the extent that we class older people and younger people as of similar mind sets can never have any credibility. I think we have to accept that there are good and bad in all nationalities, religions, sexes, races, ages etc. and take everyone as an individual.

 

[Alan 45]

I'd agree with that Richard , I try to show everyone respect irrelevant of what their politics, ideology, religion is


However debating these things with people can be taken as disrespectful no matter how much you try to limit any description of the opposite side