I've seen it all now !

[rickoshea52]

Thing is though there wasn't any contact details available so they couldn't but you can't bill people for none attendance that is rude and out of order if you ask me , I've organised quite a few in my time having five children but would never have the nastiness to ask for money money back that's shocking

According to the father there wasn't, the mother says different. But he somehow found a way to let her know that they'd accept the invitation, then after the party his partner contacts the mother by Facebook!

Either way, he showed a total lack of respect for the person inviting his child to a party. Likewise, the mother has approached this in the wrong way too.

Now I'm going to get back to modelling.

[Gern]

Surely if she'd wanted to be paid back for any activity she organised, she should either have got the money upfront or told people they would have to pay. Either way, she should either be charging everyone involved or nobody - and not just the parent of this child.

If I offered to take a group of my children's friends to the pictures and one didn't turn up, I wouldn't be sending an invoice for their share of the petrol! Either I'd charge everybody or pay it out of my pocket.

[Alan 45]

According to the father there wasn't, the mother says different. But he somehow found a way to let her know that they'd accept the invitation, then after the party his partner contacts the mother by Facebook!Either way, he showed a total lack of respect for the person inviting his child to a party. Likewise, the mother has approached this in the wrong way too.

Now I'm going to get back to modelling.

The invite was given to him in person so he accepted off the cuff I presume , in any case what ever or who ever is telling the whole truth it doesn't excuse the selfish act or asking for money back , we all lose out on parties and there never cost affective I know I've wasted money on every party ive organised

I suppose it's an objective situation, no right or wrong way but how we see personally

[rickoshea52]

The invite was given to him in person so he accepted off the cuff I presume , in any case what ever or who ever is telling the whole truth it doesn't excuse the selfish act or asking for money back , we all lose out on parties and there never cost affective I know I've wasted money on every party ive organisedI suppose it's an objective situation, no right or wrong way but how we see personally

Like I said, to accept an invite then not turn up without having the manners to tell your host is plain rude.

[Alan 45]

Like I said, to accept an invite then not turn up without having the manners to tell your host is plain rude.

I believe the father of the child over the mother who though the party , she has more reason to lie as many people would see how wrong she was and make the other person look wrong

As I say it's down to how we see the situation I see it differently so let's just agree to disagree

[Guest]

When I first heard about this story I thought the woman had a nerve but on reflection she has a point, but not with the invoice and threats of court action.It takes a lot of time, effort and in some cases expense to organise a children's party - ask me how I know. We might scoff at the activities this lady arranged for such young children but that isn't the point. She extended an invitation to her child's party that was accepted and based on this she paid out good money. To later have the invitation not taken up without any apparent attempt to alert her is just plain rude. If there had been more children not attend after the expense gone to this lady's expense would have been multiplied.

My daughter recently had to pass up a party invite that we had previously accepted but due to chickenpox she couldn't go. Maybe it's just my upbringing but I had the conscience to take a card and small gift to the party and explain my daughter's absence which was well received and a little party bag offered in return.

Being courteous is inexpensive to give but priceless to the recipient.

Yes I also was of a same conclusion Rick. Like all stories there are two sides. But goodness gracious would any of us have done this it seemed to me vindictive to send a lesson. But a phone call to have a pleasant moan. And then if this person organises a party most of us know not all will turn up.

Laurie

[takeslousyphotos]

I'd tell her to "Go Take a Hike" ...........She'll get nowhere in court. There is no contract implied or otherwise .......... and I don't believe there was a "codicil" on the party invites regarding "Penalties for Non-Attendance" .......

........... The woman needs her legs smacked ............ and putting on the naughty step.

Peter

[Guest]

I agree, the woman has got issues....... But i also think its only polite to let her know about non-attendance, im sure he would have found out where she lived if his boy was going to the party....... Seems like basic manners are becoming a thing of the past.

[spanner570]

As others have written, I too see both sides to this.....

The woman is almost falling out of her tree, being so petty as to send an invoice, and then threaten court action! She must have one shallow life. And where is her husband in all this? Probably has his head down in his man cave, making models......!

What will be the consequences for her poor child at school, knowing how cruel children can be to each other?

What will the woman's friends think?.....and the rest of the world, literally.

On the other hand, she has shelled out money, sent out invites, which this boy's parents accepted. For the lad's parents not to inform her that little Johnny won't be attending is just down right ignorant and plain bad manners. So she has every right to be miffed - but an invoice!