Well I've finally done it

[Guest]

My boss went with her husband last week for a weeks fishing in scotland Last night at 20 to 11 she phoned up (after we had a lovely bbq during the day) demanding I go down and unload the car (like that couldn't wait till this morning) I went down and cought her slagging me off to her son on the phone, I pointed out it was actually our day off and said you can take a fortnight's notice.


This is the second incident like this the last time we were at a friends bbq and she phoned my missus up screeming down the phone about how she had been trying to get us all day, where had we been, it's not good enough you should be available when I need you (turned out she couldn't find the salt)this again was on our day off.


So now I need to get a new job, sharpish.

[yak face]

Nice one Ken , this bloody woman has made your life a misery for long enough , I hope she never finds anyone else to treat like a slave. It must feel like a huge weight has been lifted off your shoulders , hopefully youll get another job very soon and be appreciated and treated with respect.Keep your chin up mate , it can only be for the best in the long run , best wishes tony

[monica]

um not good Ken,as its your day off so,you should be able to enjoy it,and that's not a nice thing of her thinking


that you are available at any time or hr,at her whim,you need not put up with that from anyone at all,


real hope all works out for you ,and things come your way,wish you all my best,Moni,

[takeslousyphotos]

She sounds like a right bloody Witch. I worked for someone like that years ago and did exactly the same. So good on yer matey....... and I really hope you get something sorted where you are appreciated.

[Guest]

She certainly seems to be a difficult woman and doesn't deserve to have employees. This reminds me of the current series of 'The Syndicate'!!


I would stick to your guns and not be dissuaded by and false promises that may now ensue. I strongly suspect this may be the best thing you have done for a long time and will force you into a more positive life that you can enjoy with your wife.

[john i am]

Well done mate good for you.Hope you find a new job soon with a decent employer.

[Guest]

She is exactly like the woman on the syndicate me and the missus always laugh about that.

[Guest]

I want to know what will happen when someone comes for the job and are shown the push mower to mow all the lawns with, and the fact there is no trailer so everything has to be done with a wheel barrow

[Guest]

I'm absolutely sure you have done the right thing Ken. Your set up sounded pretty feudal, and they'll have a tough time finding anybody else to do what you've been doing. Makes my blood boil hearing stories like this.

[eddiesolo]

Not an easy thing to do, especially given your age and the job situation Ken. However, I do think you have done the right thing and there is only so much that you can take, your patience had to go at some point. Good luck in finding something mate.

[zuludog]

I have been in a similar position, and I know it's never easy leaving your job, but it looks like in this case you don't have much choice; if you stay in it your health will suffer. When you do hand in your notice, I suspect the outcome will be any 1, 2, or 3 of these possibilities. Your employer will be -


amazed and surprised that you have decided to leave, and fail to understand or realise that she has done anything wrong


become unpleasant & angry, and try to blame you for any problems, such as not working hard enough or poor timekeeping


make all sorts of promises to pay more, be more reasonable in the future, provide better equipment, and so on. Don't believe her, these sorts of people never change their ways. Things might improve for a few weeks, but the relationship will be even more strained, and soon slip back to the old ways. Besides, why should you have to threaten to leave to be treated decently?


Once you have decided to go, don't get bogged down in any arguments or recriminations; simply go.


I think you mentioned once you were, as they say, 'of a certain age'? Once you are over 60 the rules on employment, housing, and council tax benefits are relaxed a bit, so find out, and then apply for them. Lay it on thick about unreasonable treatment and pressure at work, and how it's affecting your marriage. See the doctor about stress & depression; you could be suffering from those anyway as it is not easy to detect these things in yourself.


You sound as though you've been a decent, reliable bloke all your life, and are probably not keen on complaining about your health, especially mental health. But if it gets your rent & CT paid, so be it.

[Guest]

Good, I'm sure this will be a fresh start for you. Being a nice guy who gets pleasure from helping others I am very used to being walked over - I just don't really care but... when it gets to a certain level I just stop helping. You are in the sad position where its actually your boss so its more awkward. I feel for you.


Go get yourself a nice new job and keep your self respect. Please don't go back if she comes asking, you deserve better.

[zuludog]

Yes, that's another possibility. She may have difficulty finding replacement staff, or keeping any that start, and so ask you to return. Don't

[rickoshea52]

Think of all the extra time you'll have for model making!

[dave]

Good luck on the job hunting.


A leap into the dark like this is always scary, hopefully you will be able to look back in a few months and ask yourself why you didn't do it years ago.