Some Bad News

[colin m]

Sorry to read this Dave. Try and stay positive, all will be fine.

[Tim Marlow]

Hoping all goes well for you Dave. Take comfort in the fact that now the medical guys know what it is, they can treat it.

[papa 695]

Some bad news indeed Dave, but like the doctor says it’s treatable, stay positive and I’m sending my best wishes.

[Steve Ski]

Man, that's not cool, sad to hear that, Dave. Keep that PMA and hang tough.

[Valeron]

Dave,

I'm so sorry to hear this news. Terrible but the good prognosis is at least a positive

All the best

Mike

[David Lovell]

Sorry to hear this news ,hard to find words best wishes from me and Jo stay strong and positive.

[Waspie]

This is always the post you don't want to read. I do hope the prognosis is positive for you Dave. Stay positive buddy, we're all here for you if needed.

[PaulTRose]

As someone who only recently beat the b@$£&*d cancer i can only offer some advice that served me well

The fact youve been told its treatable is a good sign......remember that

You will get an assigned care nurse.......use her.....any question ask her


What ever the cancer type is theres probably a support website......mine had support nurses 24/7 that you could call......i remember once chatting for 90 minutes crying my eyes out cos i couldnt cope with side effects of the treatment but she explained it all in a way my care nurse hadnt....she was brilliant and reassured me....wouldnt let me go til she knew i was ok

Contact Mcmillian......they can help in so many ways from emotional to financial support......i dud a 6 week 1 morning a week course where about 18 of us with similar diagnosis but at different points of treatment would meet and do support activities.....and chat!!....its important to realise you are not alone....you are not the only one

Its ok to be angry......but direct it at the cancer.......i used my late wifes mantra if 'its an uninvited lodger and its going to be evicted!'........i had lots of people comment on how positive i was.......they didnt realise it was partly due to putting on a mask for those around me.......depression and anxiety will also be close friends.....but be positive

And this may sound a bit obvious but keep busy....do things to occupy your mind so you dont think about things.....i couldnt do any plastic bashing but i got through lots of 1000 pc jigsaws.....at least one xword and suduko a day.....i even took up writing poetry cos it was a way i could express myself in writing rather than speech if that makes sense

As for putting plans for the future on hold.......absolutly not!.....you make those plans cos then they become targets to achieve.....make plans to go on holiday in a years time cos then you have to be fit enough to do it.....channel that positiveness at that cancer....it wont like it

I wish you all the best in beating this damned desease

[BattleshipBob]

So sorry to read this horrible post, Julie had and is still receiving excellent support from the wonderful NHS specialist nurses and yes she's giving it a right old kicking.

It's treatable which is good news, although I can't even think what you are going through Dave. But be strong

[Si Benson]

Oh Dave, my stomach sank as I read your news. Hoping they can sort it pronto!

[Dave Ward]

Everybody - thanks for all your kind words.
I'm in a sort of a fog at the moment, I had to ring my brother, and he didn't take the news well, which really upset me - luckily my sister-in-law took over, and being a retired nurse, she knew the right questions to ask, although I don't have many answers at the moment.
I can foresee that the next few weeks are going to be tough, as the news sinks in, and the treatment plan will be scheduled
Dave

[stona]

Sorry to hear this. I can only wish you the best of luck with what comes next.

It's a horrible diagnosis, but we live in a very different world to even twenty years ago. I have two long term cancer survivors in my own family, and one of my oldest mates too. You should be another!

[Ian M]

Positive thought s coming your way from me too.

[Graeme C.]

I'm so sorry to read this Dave, but the doctors say it's treatable, hope it goes well.
Good luck mate.
Graeme.

[Peter Gillson]

Sorry to read your news. Thegood thing is that the doctor said it is treatable. my wife had bowel cancer diagnosed just as the first lockdown ended; she had an op and then chemo which was hard going, but she has just had the four year all clear! There is hope- try to keep positive!

Peter