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Some Bad News

Sorry to hear this news ,hard to find words best wishes from me and Jo stay strong and positive.
 
This is always the post you don't want to read. I do hope the prognosis is positive for you Dave. Stay positive buddy, we're all here for you if needed.
 
As someone who only recently beat the b@$£&*d cancer i can only offer some advice that served me well

The fact youve been told its treatable is a good sign......remember that

You will get an assigned care nurse.......use her.....any question ask her


What ever the cancer type is theres probably a support website......mine had support nurses 24/7 that you could call......i remember once chatting for 90 minutes crying my eyes out cos i couldnt cope with side effects of the treatment but she explained it all in a way my care nurse hadnt....she was brilliant and reassured me....wouldnt let me go til she knew i was ok

Contact Mcmillian......they can help in so many ways from emotional to financial support......i dud a 6 week 1 morning a week course where about 18 of us with similar diagnosis but at different points of treatment would meet and do support activities.....and chat!!....its important to realise you are not alone....you are not the only one

Its ok to be angry......but direct it at the cancer.......i used my late wifes mantra if 'its an uninvited lodger and its going to be evicted!'........i had lots of people comment on how positive i was.......they didnt realise it was partly due to putting on a mask for those around me.......depression and anxiety will also be close friends.....but be positive

And this may sound a bit obvious but keep busy....do things to occupy your mind so you dont think about things.....i couldnt do any plastic bashing but i got through lots of 1000 pc jigsaws.....at least one xword and suduko a day.....i even took up writing poetry cos it was a way i could express myself in writing rather than speech if that makes sense

As for putting plans for the future on hold.......absolutly not!.....you make those plans cos then they become targets to achieve.....make plans to go on holiday in a years time cos then you have to be fit enough to do it.....channel that positiveness at that cancer....it wont like it

I wish you all the best in beating this damned desease
 
So sorry to read this horrible post, Julie had and is still receiving excellent support from the wonderful NHS specialist nurses and yes she's giving it a right old kicking.

It's treatable which is good news, although I can't even think what you are going through Dave. But be strong
 
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Everybody - thanks for all your kind words.
I'm in a sort of a fog at the moment, I had to ring my brother, and he didn't take the news well, which really upset me - luckily my sister-in-law took over, and being a retired nurse, she knew the right questions to ask, although I don't have many answers at the moment.
I can foresee that the next few weeks are going to be tough, as the news sinks in, and the treatment plan will be scheduled
Dave
 
Sorry to hear this. I can only wish you the best of luck with what comes next.

It's a horrible diagnosis, but we live in a very different world to even twenty years ago. I have two long term cancer survivors in my own family, and one of my oldest mates too. You should be another!
 
I'm so sorry to read this Dave, but the doctors say it's treatable, hope it goes well.
Good luck mate.
Graeme.
 
Sorry to read your news. Thegood thing is that the doctor said it is treatable. my wife had bowel cancer diagnosed just as the first lockdown ended; she had an op and then chemo which was hard going, but she has just had the four year all clear! There is hope- try to keep positive!

Peter
 
Dave Ward said:
I've been unwell for some months, I was diagnosed with anaemia, but I've been going through various tests to find the cause. I had gastroscopy and colonoscopy yesterday, possibly the worst afternoon in my life, and the upshot is I have cancer. Biopsies were taken for analysis. The doctor assured me that it was treatable, and there was a good prognosis. Next up is a MRI & CT scan..................
As you can imagine, I'm feeling a little shell shocked at the moment. All plans for the future are now a bit hazy. I can't concentrate at the moment on anything, so I might not be posting as much as I normally do
Dave
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Hi Dave.
Ive been away and only just seen this.I cant possibly begin to know how you are feeling.I sincerely wish you all the very best and you know most of us are here always for you and others.
Thinking of you.Richard and Helen.
 
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Things seem to be moving quickly, I've been booked a CT scan next Monday 12th, and some iron diffusion treatment on Friday 16th - everybody seems to be efficient, and seem to have all my information and preferences to hand. I'm still in a bit of a fog, I find it hard to concentrate on anything for any amount of time. I've contacted Macmillan, but at the moment I haven't anything that I need help with, although I'm certain that will change.................
Dave
 
I'm sure that at the moment you are simply overwhelmed with worry and the 'not knowing'. It's good to know that ........
Dave Ward said:
everybody seems to be efficient, and seem to have all my information and preferences to hand.
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That is reassuring. Stay strong and things will improve.
 
Yes understandable it's hard to think about anything else Dave. We often take our health for granted, but when you get news like that usually everything else suddenly feels like a low priority...
Hope you'll get some better news soon.
 
Hope your treatment goes well, as others have said we have moved on and Cancer is survivable, my wife had breast cancer 23 years ago and is still going strong. Keep a positive attitude and don’t be afraid to ask questions and get explanations you understand.
 
Dave what a shock to hear, no wonder your in a daze.
Hope the treatment you receive beats this .
Let's hope and pray.
 
Dave Ward said:
I've been unwell for some months, I was diagnosed with anaemia, but I've been going through various tests to find the cause. I had gastroscopy and colonoscopy yesterday, possibly the worst afternoon in my life, and the upshot is I have cancer. Biopsies were taken for analysis. The doctor assured me that it was treatable, and there was a good prognosis. Next up is a MRI & CT scan..................
As you can imagine, I'm feeling a little shell shocked at the moment. All plans for the future are now a bit hazy. I can't concentrate at the moment on anything, so I might not be posting as much as I normally do
Dave
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Just popped in and seen this Dave,
What a shock!! Very sorry to hear this mate, sending you all of our VERY BEST from deepest Devon.
 
Very sad to hear this Dave - hardly surprising you're in a fog. Best wishes for a successful treatment and a swift recovery.
 
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