discussion This is good but very odd !

[Alan 45]

My daughter is 15 and she's a really nice kid that is always happy but she has never swore now every child of this age swears , maybe not in front of older people but amongst their friends it come to the point that one day she will swear but it's not going to be a simple one like sh*t if she stubs her toe it's going to be when someone really peas her off and I want to be there when it happens lol


I don't know how she does it I really don't but I'm glad that she doesn't

 

[Ian M]

I Think that a lot og it is Down to parenting. If the 'grown-ups' do it all the time it must be ok, so you must also be careful what you say in front of her. Good on you.


My sisters favourite cuss is bugger. Guess what the first word her daughter said was


Lol

 

[john i am]

My dad never allowed swearing and breaking wind when I was growing up and it was something I adhered to and still do although I let the odd smelly one go now and then I mean that's just nature isn't it .and when I met my missus she was surprised that she swore more than I did.I have two lads 25 &14 and although I'm sure they must swear somewhere I can honestly say I've never heard them swear or break wind.

 

[Alan 45]

Your right ian it's not just parents though , my parents never swore but my mates did so I did .


We have realised that all kids swear but we taught them not to in front of elder folk a sort of respect thing but my daughter has taken it to extremes and refuses to and I'm proud of her for that

 

[Guest]

Maybe she is smart enough to be able to converse without resorting to profanity to emphasise her point. She probably has a better command of English than her friends and can make her point her own way. Perhaps rather than wait until she falls to the same level as her friends you should be applauding the rarity of a well spoken daughter and letting her know how proud you are of her!

 

[Alan 45]

Maybe she is smart enough to be able to converse without resorting to profanity to emphasise her point. She probably has a better command of English than her friends and can make her point her own way. Perhaps rather than wait until she falls to the same level as her friends you should be applauding the rarity of a well spoken daughter and letting her know how proud you are of her!

Oh don't get me wrong Richard I'm as proud as anyone can be I just want to be there when it happens but knowing her like i do she would still not swear

 

[Guest]

Yep, as Ian says, its down to parenting, i never swore in front of my kids, my daughter is now 26 and still doesnt swear in front of us..... The boy is 21 and doesnt swear at home..... But its different when hes playing football, watched him lose 4-3 in a semi-final yesterday.... Yep, some chose language there i can tell ya.

 

[Guest]

I have to say it is only in part to parenting your daughter sounds, as Richard has said, to have a very good grasp of English.


I have two sisters and a brother, we too were bought up not to swear, three of us don't but my younger sister swears like a trooper, when she had kids she was really strict on not swearing and I walked in on her one day when her son must have sworn she was laying into him saying "if I ever f----ing hear you f----ing swearing af----ing gain " I said "Ruth have you listened to yourself every other word you've said is a swear word" now that is not the way to teach someone not to swear, with my mum and dad if you did slip up it was just that look of utter disappointment, made you regret swearing. Your daughter sounds like a very intelligent young lady, I mean once you resort to swearing there is no where else to go to make or emphasise your point.


You are right to be proud of her.

 

[Alan 45]

I don't swear that much unless the SNP,Labour or the greens are on the box lol but I do swear but I don't in front of older people , I don't feel the need to swear unless it's necessary if there ever really a need but you know what I mean so it's very refreshing to not hear it or be told by people she doesn't it makes you think you've got something right

 

[Dave W]

I don't swear that much unless the SNP,Labour or the greens are on the box lol but I do swear but I don't in front of older people , I don't feel the need to swear unless it's necessary if there ever really a need but you know what I mean so it's very refreshing to not hear it or be told by people she doesn't it makes you think you've got something right

So if you don't swear Alan,how do you teach Parrots how to swear?!!.

 

[Alan 45]

So if you don't swear Alan,how do you teach Parrots how to swear?!!.

That's just my second hobby mate

 

[eddiesolo]

I swear...a lot...especially in my work shed...I am not proud...


Good for her Alan, and you and your missus for obviously having a calm household.


Si

 

[Guest]

A lot depends on the child's nature. Some will use profanity as they think it is grown up. Others just ignore it especially if their vocabulary is well developed. Which is where parents should see to it that reading is top of the list as it is the doorway to life.


4 children and none swore at home if they did they were told in no uncertain terms not to.


But like any practical parents we knew that they or some or one did use profanity when outside of the family unit. Now they are in their fifties and thirties we know they did although they hold back even now, which is quite amusing, in front of my wife and I. Funny as they know I can use selective words with effect. Then I get "Grandad".


Children here it on the television and in many other ways. Most adjust there language to accommodate the company they are in.


After retiring I took up filming weddings. I walked down the aisle one day with the Rector of one of the Parishes here. A very nice man but that day in the church he came out with a couple of profanities. I said you should not be using those words in church. His reply " why not" ?


School children read Shakespeare which is littered with profanity.


There are two types of profanity in my book. That to express much annoyance. That where the vocabulary is limited in the extreme and is replaced every second word with a repeated profanity even for Christian names. If your vocabulary is good most find much better and varied words to use.


Laurie

 

[Alan 45]

I swear...a lot...especially in my work shed...I am not proud...
Good for her Alan, and you and your missus for obviously having a calm household.


Si

Calm #*€$ing Calm you must be joking mate , if I'm not yelling expletives at the news on tablet or TV and son is complaining about his Xbox game cheating him the cats having a mad one and attacking everybody's lasses boots and destroying everything in its path because he's found some catnip then the cars broke down the cooker has blown up and bloody Jehovahs witness is knocking my door down ( what did he witness anyway ?? ) so calm I'll give you calm the only time my house is calm is when we are asleep !!

 

[Guest]

Jehovahs witness is knocking my door down ( what did he witness anyway ?? )

By the sound of it quite a lot Alan.


Laurie

 

[Gern]

Ken and Laurie are right. If you're using swear words as part of your everyday vocabulary, what have you got left to say when you stub your toe or hit your thumb with a hammer?


As a teacher I very rarely swear, and when I do it's really mild.


Sat at home on my own I'm quite placid - unless I'm modelling of course, then I sit in a world of dark blue! Mind you, the air is taking on a slight blue tinge as I type this. I'm trying to add a smiley at the end of a sentence and no matter where I put the curser it appears right at the front of the post!


As a lorry driver, I matched my language to my fellow drivers and f*****g swore every f*****g second f*****g word!


PS I still can't get those '*$@^%ing' emoticons to go where I want them! I have to insert them at the front, then cut and paste them where I want.

 

[Guest]

It is fascinating how things have changed in my life time.


Muck or Mucker was used a lot but not in all circles as it was just a sotftening ? of a similar word. Only women mentioned the word pregnant and then in whisper terms. Crap was a no no. Prat was another. Bottom was ok but bum used rarely and arse was way out of order. No body mentioned penus it was willy. Buggy was useful as bugger was not in. Bastard was a much used word in certain circles. Many parts of the body with now well used were only used in the very worst situation. Cock ouch ! Bloody caused a revolution when it was used on TV, just the one time, never till then to be used in front of a women and then mostly only on building sites or shipyards and then only judiciously.


I used some as a boy but only to whisper to myself.


Laurie

 

[Alan 45]

Ken and Laurie are right. If you're using swear words as part of your everyday vocabulary, what have you got left to say when you stub your toe or hit your thumb with a hammer?
As a teacher I very rarely swear, and when I do it's really mild.


Sat at home on my own I'm quite placid - unless I'm modelling of course, then I sit in a world of dark blue! Mind you, the air is taking on a slight blue tinge as I type this. I'm trying to add a smiley at the end of a sentence and no matter where I put the curser it appears right at the front of the post!


As a lorry driver, I matched my language to my fellow drivers and f*****g swore every f*****g second f*****g word!


PS I still can't get those '*$@^%ing' emoticons to go where I want them! I have to insert them at the front, then cut and paste them where I want.

Dave you and this chap have many things in common View attachment 102938


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[Guest]

I put that down to excellent parenting skills Alan, and instilling in her good manners and morals, she obviously feels that she has no need to swear to get her point across in a conversation. I don't swear at home because my daughter is at that age where she copies what others say, but in work iam professional to a point, the moment someone at my window crosses that line verbally with me they deserve what they get in return, I have been told I could almost be Klingon in nature.


scott

 

[Gern]

Well Alan, you teach parrots! Who d'you think teaches ducks!?