discussion From bob the stug

[BattleshipBob]

Hi all

Before I go on, I would like to apologise to anyone who has or is going through the same heart break. It's not my intention to upset anybody.

As I posted on the Hood build, my mum while in hospital had a scan which showed a tumour and lesions.

The specialists had a meeting Wednesday to discuss mum's case. As I dreaded there is nothing they can do, she's too fragile to survive a major operation and of course chemotherapy. The plan is to try to get mum home for the remaining time she has. That may not be for a while as she's not well plus trying to arrange a care package for mum at home

If anybody wants me to stop or the moderators want to remove this post, please feel free.

A big thanks to Mr Race, Ian M and of course Chris aka boatman for your constant love and support. You will never know how much it means to me .

Thank you all from the bottom of my broken heart

Bob an Julie xx

 

[spanner570]

Bob, I was in the same position as yourself with my mum.
I managed to get her home for the remaining time she had with us. Not long, but I'm so glad I made that decision. I was able to pile as much love in her direction as the time allowed.

Be strong for her and Julie.

My best wishes to all your family at this difficult time.

Ron

 

[Allen Dewire]

No Bob, no need to stop at all my friend. You and Julie have been through hell for quite a while and now this...I'm so sorry to hear this terrible news about your mom. I'm sure we all hoped she would recover and get better. We are here for you as the forum is like one big family and we care about each other. If you should need to dump or the like, my mailbox is always open 24/7 Buddy. Stay strong and please take care....

Allen

 

[JayCee]

There is no need to apologize, Bob. Some of us know what you are going through, been there ourselves. Best wishes to you and your family.
John.

 

[Jim R]

All my thoughts are with you and Julie at such an upsetting time. All you can do is support each other and make the precious time your mum has left full of love and kindness.

 

[Dave Ward]

Bob,
you have my deepest sympathy - all of us, reaching a certain age have to face this. Both my parents went through a lenghly period of decline before passing, my father with physical illness, my mother with demetia. The feeling of helplessness builds up, and you have to watch out for your own health. I found it a great help talking, in my case with my sister-in-law, and concentrating on doing what you can do, however little it seems. Sadly it's part of life, always has been, and always will be, but you will survive, pick up the pieces on go on.
Dave

 

[stillp]

Dreadful news Bob, no need at all to apologise.
Pete

 

[outrunner]

Thinking of you and your wife Bob and I feel for you as both my mother and father departed a long time ago, just give here all the love and attention you can in the time she has left.

Andy.

 

[Tim Marlow]

Truly sorry to hear this Bob. Don’t you worry. You post as much or as little as you want. We will listen and sympathise as best we can.

 

[Andy T]

Words fail me at times like this Bob but if it helps you, please keep sharing your news and feelings with us.

It's almost 22 years since I lost my dad under similar circumstances and it still kicks like a mule at times, so I have some idea of what you must be going through right now. If it helps you to write it down and let some of it out, you know we'll be listening mate.

 

[scottie3158]

Bob,
No apologies needed, I'm glad that you can share with us your feelings. Sending my very best wishes to you, Julie and of course your mum.

 

[yak face]

No need to apologize bob , we’re all sending our best wishes to you and the family . As said above if it helps then talk away on here , take care , tony

 

[AlanG]

Bob

Sorry to hear your 'news'. I know we've chatted in PM about it but it's still not nice to hear it.

Take care and as always, my pm box and email is open to the both of you

Al

 

[Peter Gillson]

Hi Bob

sorry to read your news. we have lost my father 22 years ago, father-in-law 10 years ago and mother-in-law this year, it is not easy but you and Julie are strong so I am sure you will be able to get through this together. Remember to also look after your own health.

best wishes to you both

Peter

 

[Mini Me]

Hang tough Bob and know that our thoughts and prayers are with you and Julie, in your time of need.

All the best StuG. Man,

Rick H.

 

[adt70hk]

So very sorry to hear that Bob.

I knew from our discussions this was a distinct possibility but nonetheless still devastating news when you get it - come the autumn my dad will have been dead for 30 years. Even now I still think about it every now and again.

I pray that whatever time she has left well be as comfortable as it can be and that she will not suffer unduly.

You are in our thoughts.

Andrew

 

[Waspie]

I think at some stage we are touched by what you are going through. All we can do as a group is support each other when and how we can.

Hoping your mum is as comfortable as she can be. She will know she has a loving and caring family there for her.

Doug

 

[Lee Drennen]

My prayers are with you Bob

 

[Tworrs]

Cherish the time you have left with her Bob, and make the most of it.

 

[Mickc1440]

There are no words Bob but I'm sure as you can already see our little community is here for you and your good lady